Wednesday, October 17, 2012

China's 'leftover' women: What to do if he has an affair

Photo: Anja Disseldor
A bunch of older, unattractive Chinese women find themselves in the unenviable category of the unwed.

Fortunately these women have advocates in China’s state feminist agency, the All-China Women’s Federation.

The agency, as reported in the New York Times, has some excellent advice for women who have sought further education because they're too ugly to find husbands without such an advantage -- the so-called "leftover" women.

While it is directed towards Chinese women, certainly these pearls of wisdom would apply to women of other nationalities as well:

Pretty girls don’t need a lot of education to marry into a rich and powerful family, but girls with an average or ugly appearance will find it difficult. These kinds of girls hope to further their education in order to increase their competitiveness. The tragedy is, they don’t realize that as women age, they are worth less and less, so by the time they get their M.A. or Ph.D., they are already old, like yellowed pearls.
Many highly educated “leftover women” are very progressive in their thinking and enjoy going to nightclubs to search for a one-night stand, or they become the mistress of a high official or rich man. It is only when they have lost their youth and are kicked out by the man, that they decide to look for a life partner. Therefore, most “leftover women” do not deserve our sympathy. 
The main reason many girls become “leftover women” is that their standards for a partner are too high … As girls are not too picky, finding a partner should be as easy as blowing away a speck of dust. 

When holding out for a man, if you say he must be rich and brilliant, romantic and hardworking ... this is just being willful. Does this kind of perfect man exist? Maybe he does exist, but why on earth would he want to marry you?
When you find out that he is having an affair, you may be in a towering rage, but you must know that if you make a fuss, you are denying the man “face” ... No man is capable of spending a lifetime being loyal to an outmoded wife who never changes ... Try changing your hairstyle or your fashion. Women must constantly change for the better.

Read the complete hilarious-if-it-weren't-so-pathetic article by Leta Hong Fincher, an American doctoral student in Tsinghua University’s Department of Sociology.

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